Kindness Begins Where Over-Giving Ends

Kindness is often celebrated as generosity, availability, and selflessness.  But when kindness is rooted in over-giving, it quietly erodes the body.

Over time, the nervous system learns that care flows outward — not inward.  Boundaries blur.  Fatigue becomes familiar.  Resentment hides beneath good intentions.

True kindness is not limitless.

It is resourced.

In the BodyMind lens, kindness begins when we listen to capacity — not when we override it.  When we notice the body’s early signals instead of pushing past them.

Winter reminds us that containment comes before expansion.  That tending the roots matters more than reaching for the light.

Kindness toward yourself might look like:

•   Pausing before saying yes
•   Resting before exhaustion
•   Asking for help once this week

These are not failures of generosity.

They are expressions of wisdom.

When kindness includes you, it becomes sustainable.

When it excludes you, it becomes another form of self-erasure.

BodyMind reflection

•   Where do I give past my capacity?
•   What signals does my body send before I override it?
•   What would kindness feel like if it didn’t require sacrifice?

February Intention

This month, my kindness includes me.